The parishioners of St. Fabian, our pastor Father Jeffrey Day, and I, would first of all like to extend our sincere condolences for your loss. It is never easy to lose a loved one, no matter their age or circumstances. Know that you and your family will be in our prayers.
To make the funeral mass of your loved one as personal and meaningful as possible, and in an effort to ease the overwhelming confusion that can occur at this time, we offer the following in the hopes that it will alleviate some of the questions and concerns you may have concerning your loved one’s funeral mass of resurrection.
At the time of your loved one’s death, please call the funeral home of your choice. They will call either me or St. Fabian Church for you to set up your funeral and schedule a meeting, or you can call St. Fabian at 248-553-4610 and ask for me.
Enclosed are a liturgy information sheet, and copies of the readings and music that you may choose from. When you meet with the funeral home they will give you copies of all of the enclosed materials to plan your loved ones funeral. After reviewing the enclosed materials and filling in the requested information, please call the parish office at 248-553-4610 extension 338 to schedule an appointment with me at least one day before the funeral liturgy so that we can go over the information together to make sure everything is there. At that time you would need to bring the “Funeral Liturgy Planning Information” sheet with you. The remaining information is yours to keep, and to use for practicing the readings. There will be duplicate copies of the readings and the general intercessions chosen (all in a larger font) in the church the morning of the funeral for the readers to use. Please ask the person serving the Mass to show you where the readings are.
The parish does offer a luncheon immediately following the mass for parish families for a $7 per person guaranteed fee, with a minimum of 25. Funeral luncheons consist of a chicken broccoli bake, salad, rolls, bean salad, a cheese tray, a fruit tray, coffee, tea and lemonade. If you would be interested in that, please contact me at 248-553-4610 extension 338 during business hours, as soon as possible so that the volunteers who run the luncheon have time to shop and prepare—they must have at least 72 hours advance notice. You will need to give me an approximate number of guests at that time.
IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER:
- No eulogies during the liturgy—a wonderful alternate is either at the funeral home or the luncheon
- If interested in the luncheon, please contact me at the number listed above ASAP
- The luncheon will be held immediately following the liturgy BEFORE going to the cemetery
- There is a 25 person minimum and a 200 person maximum for the luncheon
- A member of the family must be a registered parishioner for the parish to host the luncheon
- Mass related expenses include $100.00 for the music minister.
If you find you have questions that cannot be answered with the materials given, please don’t hesitate to call me at the same number and I will be happy to assist you in whatever way I can.
May God’s peace be with you and your family in this time of sorrow,
Deacon Perry Clark